Jan 302008

Those crazy kids over at the Midwest Teen Sex Show have been busy. Not only have they basically been “discovered” by the mainstream media but they’ve put out four new episodes since the last time I bloged about them.

So visit their site to see clips of their interview on CBS as well as episodes on Dating, Parents, Porn, and most relevant to my interests – Backdoor Business


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Jan 292008

I just might have to start watching this show again…

My favorite bit is right at the end “Stop being such a pussy.”

Speaking of, if you’re a pussy about open discussion of butt play just stop reading right now.

So here are my thoughts. First, as is probably obvious, this is a comedy sketch. Also, its something being done on TV. And we all know how much both of those worlds like to exaggerate to points beyond what is safe, sane, consensual…

or physically possible…I mean come ON that was a HUGE dildo. There is no WAY that she would be able to get that freakin donkey dong up what’s-his-face’s tight little virgin man ass. And were she to achieve the impossible, the resulting pain and potential anal tearing( a phrase we should all try to avoid) wouldn’t be the slightest bit funny even placed in the hands of the most brilliant comedy writers.

Don’t get me wrong, she looked damn hot wearing it. And I liked the fact that her demeanor, as well as her body posture, changed as soon as she strapped it on. All very sexy and pretty true to form. I obviously don’t need to be wearing my dick to slip into Dominant mode. But there is a certain change that comes over me when I’m sporting my cock. For one thing I have a hard time not stroking it. I also tend to stick out my pelvis and widen my stance. It could be that I’m just mimicking what I see in men. But I’m inclined to say its more then that. That it is a channeling of the power of the penis, the constant desire to put itself some where warm and wet, that is a bit like wearing a divining rod in a lake district.

But as much fun as this energy is, I’m very happy with the girly bits Goddess gave me. As well as the common sense and empathy that is all part of my feminine package.

As much as my playmates might fantasies about being impaled on my joy stick, a certain amount of leading-up-to is usually necessary. Especially for boys that haven’t been pro-active in their anal explorations. Just like most of us learn to masturbate before graduating to intercourse, it’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with penetration at a speed and size that feels right before letting someone else do the driving. And its not about stretching yourself out so much as training your body to feel comfortable with a type of sensation.

And don’t feel bad if all that ever feels good is the most slender of toys. For a lot of men, one well manipulated finger is all they’ll ever want or need. And that’s totally okay. For some butt boys its more about having their prostate stimulated and the pleasurable emotional overtones of being “taken” then seeing just how large an object they can fit up there and getting “fucked”.

We all have our extreme fantasies. But much like this scene from Weeds, somethings are meant to be experienced, while others…well, let’s just say, don’t believe everything you see on TV.

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Jan 282008

Bella just emailed me these. It looks like I was playing hide and seek with the photographer but there’s still some nice compositions. I feel much love for Bella, and was very honored to get the chance to play with her like this, and I think it comes through.

And my hair looks great.


There might be more photos of me from this event taken when I was watching others take their turn. Bella will get a CD from the resident shutterbug at next months event and then I’ll know.

Jan 242008

It’s been quite awhile since I last made the trek south. Last time was in July for Voodoo Kiss, another fabulous fetish event hosted by my good friend, and personal hero, Ronabell. I’d heard from my Portland pals that Deacon X’s Fetish Night just seemed to keep getting bigger and better every single month.

Notable changes were that the play area has been made considerably larger, which was awesome. I spent most of my time hanging out in this roped off section of the club. It was where most of my friends where, as well as having the best view. Additionally I’m a bit of an energy vampire and it is much easier to feed at close range. I was also trying to keep myself on hand for when Mistress Bella Morte finished sticking needles in people.

The lovely Bella is most definitely a Dominant in addition to being the events resident piercer. But the weekend previous had been her 29th birthday and as part of her natal celebration she wanted to get royally worked over at Deacon X.

Bella and I have known each other for a number of years, and more importantly, she knows my style. I’m not pretentious, I don’t give in to Dommier-then-thou pissing contests, and I tend to be quite the goofy, grinning, grabby spaz when I play. All of which worked for her. She wasn’t interested in being dominated she just wanted to be topped. Basically, I would be doing stuff to her, but trying to make her feel submissive to me wouldn’t be among the activities.

She had given me a very short list of folks that she was cool with working her over. So once she was ready to get going, which involved having a bit to drink and taking a lot of her clothes off, I gave everyone a heads up. Then we got her up on the St Andrews cross and went to work.

Honestly, some of how things went down is a bit of a blur, which is always a good sign after the fact. Just means that I was having so much fun, and getting such a nice contact high, that things like who did what when can’t get a grip in my over stimulated mind. But here’s some high points:

Mistress Mindy, done up in a head-to-toe and tight-as-a-glove latex nun outfit, interspersing swings of a very vicious leather paddle with metal studs by running her luscious booty and breasts against Bella’s increasingly red back-side.

Eric Bloodstorm doing some of his trademark double flogging on her back and butt as well as using what I was told later was a chain-mail flogger(um, ouch). He really likes hair pulling too.

Ronabell jumping in to join us between songs with his wonderfully wicked latigo whip. He looked like he was dancing and that long bit of black leather and pure evil were just an extension of his arm.

And then there was me….I’d asked Bella what she would like me to bring down for her and she said that she’d never been on the receiving end of either canes or rubber paddles. So I made sure to include those in my travel toy bag. I even let her feel each of the toys before we started our scene…so she knew what she’d be getting…sort of. Started off with a ping-pong style leather paddle to warm her up. My next turn up it was the slotted rubber paddle which has a wicked stingy bite to it, especially at the tip. After that it was the thickest of the three canes I brought. It was rattan and pretty wide but still a mean MF and I gave her a pretty thorough working over with it. And that was already after she’d been SM gang raped by everyone else. Before we called it a night we did a last little bit of play with white lightening, my thin plastic cane, and a thick solid rubber paddle.

When I saw her roughly 20 hours later her butt was still very red and of all the toys that were used on her the night before, the three things that left distinct marks – the canes, the rubber paddles and the latigo. She was sore as fuck but happy and rightly impressed that shed taken such a beating.

And then, in response to my voicemail asking if it was okay to post all this, not only did she say hell yeah… she sent me a photo…

…taken 3 days after the event.

Personally, I think it was a wonderful right of passage for the beginning of the last year of her twenties.

And keep in mind that our play was just one scene among many. Lots of pretty girls and boys being worked over and tied up and hung from suspension points. All to a super sexy pounding soundtrack in a dimly lit club space full of fetish dressed folks either dancing, watching the scenes in the play area or seated on the perimeter recovering from the afore mentioned activities.

All around one wonderfully kinky evening.

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Jan 232008

Back from my cross the board fabulous trip to Portland. Wonderful time filled with some quality one-on-one face time with good friends and one amazing night of kinky goodness.

Regarding the kinky goodness, I’m waiting to hear back from the main party involved to make sure that it is okay for me to post about it before I blast it all over the internet. So in lieu of that, here’s something that is somewhat time sensitive, that I didn’t have time to blog about before I left.

I think it incredibly serendipitous given that I’m about to wax rhapsodic about all the kinky fun I had in Portland that I need to pimp out THIS Seattle event:

For reasons that I don’t completely have the scoop on (but have my suspicions about) The Seattle Erotic Arts Fest, as it has manifested in the past, will NOT be happening this year. Instead there will be a one night gala, a sort of retrospective on SEAF of years past, as well being a fundraiser for next years full weekend long event.

I’ve blogged about SEAF before, and even though this year it will be a different deal, you are still guaranteed an incredibly sexy night that is not to be missed.

Additionally, keep in mind just how much fine art shapes the world we live in. We are a very visual culture and it is one of the major ways we take our cues as to what is acceptable and what isn’t. Basically if you want to live in a sex positive world it is in your best interest to see that erotic art continues to flourish. So put your money where your libido is and come play with like minded folks on a night that is sure to leave your standard gallery walk experience in the dust.

The Gala is being held on March 1st, 2008 at the Seattle Center Exhibition Hall. Tickets are on sale now and I STRONGLY advise you to buy them ASAP. This event will most likely sell out and sooner rather then later.


Hope to see you there.

*Last note, the image used for the flyer is by my long time friend and photography bad-ass – Nina Ruchirat. You should check out her site and buy some of her work. It’s a worthwhile investment that will only appreciate in value: http://ninaruchirat.com

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Jan 182008

Those of you who I’ve seen recently already know about this but I’m heading down to Portland this weekend. I have a number of truly wonderful friends there that are worth the drive to see. But there is an additional draw…

Portland’s kink scene is AWESOME!!!

In a recent conversation with one of my afore mentioned Portland peeps we were discussing part of why this is. I’d known that the incredibly liberal laws that the city had regarding strip clubs had created a great loop hole for things like public fetish events. But I hadn’t known exactly what law it was. Turns out its their freedom of speech law, which is one of the most liberal in the nation.

What this translates to is not only can you enjoy a nice scotch on the rocks while a nubile and nakid nymph publicly dances for your pleasure BUT if you go to something that bills itself as a “Fetish Event” in Portland you’re gonna see people smacking each other around god damn it. All consensual of course.

One of my big gripes about Seattle is that if you go to a open-to-the-public fetish event, sure some of the attendees might be wearing fetish gear, but that’s as crazy as the night is gonna get folks. We do have the SPCC aka the Wetspot. And yes, becoming a member is neither difficult nor expensive. But the very fact that it is not a public space, that the activities that it promotes have been designated by our laws as too dangerous for public consumption, makes me wonder how we can really call ourselves a liberal city at all.

So I’ll be hauling my sassy self down to a truly liberal town and royally getting my kink on this weekend. If you find yourself in the neighborhood and feel like checking it out make sure to read over the event website first. They are serious about ALL of the rules they have posted including the dress code. It’s a pretty intense scene with everything from short spanking scenes to full body suspension going on. Definitely not for the faint of loin. But the music kicks ass, the space is well laid out with places to play, dance and socialize and the people are HOT HOT HOT.

I’ll be doing at least one birthday spanking scene, which I am very excited about. Especially since I heard that my willing victim is more nervous about what I’ll be doing with the vibrator then with the canes and rubber paddles she requested I use.

Silly pervert. Clits are for kids..


One last note regarding scheduling. I won’t have my computer with me so email is the WRONG way to try to reach me until Wednesday. I do still a have a few day/times open but you’ll need to call to reserve them. I will be answering my phone while I’m out of town…ya know, when I’m not smacking people around.

Have a great weekend. I sure plan to.

Jan 172008

Stole this from msbellamorte’s myspace…I think…anyhoo, made me shoot tea out my nose.

I know the vision of that may not be in keeping with the image some of ya’ll might have of me, Big Badass Dominatix Lady. But if that were really who I was I wouldn’t have found this comic…

or anything else…


the slightest bit funny.

So not sexy.

The other day I played with someone new, and that I obviously had a sense of humor, was one of the main reasons he choose me over some other local lady in leather. Well, that and he thought I was the hottest. But its hard to take a complement like that too seriously when it comes from a boy that’s tied down and about to be flogged.

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Jan 152008

Our very own CSPC getting some mainstream press –


It’s an okay article. Doesn’t seem to be too critical but it’s still an outsider perspective. And as such I think the author’s impressions are pretty accurate.

The demo he describes, involving fire play, sounds awesome. I also find it significant that he picked up on something that I’ve seen with other edge play activities. There isn’t a huge sexual charge to it. Part of that might be that it takes a lot more focus, for safety’s sake. You can’t just be all grabby and lusty when needles or fire are involved.

But what I’ve seen and appreciate about some of the edgier activities in the BDSM realm, whether its play piercing, fire play, suspension, electricity, or even intense canning scenes, is that at its core it is a solo spiritual experience. Yes, it takes two(at least) but the intensity of the sensations all but force the bottom to “go deep” with in themselves.

Which isn’t to say that can’t be a sexual thing. The endorphine high that results from this type of play, combined with a very focused sense of ones own body, can be brought to a nice Face of God type orgasm. But admittedly, in most of the scenes of this magnitude I’ve seen or been party to, the euphoria and acute awareness of the amazing potential and possibilities of ones physical form is orgasm-like enough that all they want after it is to curl up somewhere safe and warm…like their Dominant’s arms.

Jan 092008

Just did a website update.

Added some things to the Games Page to reflect my new tasty toy acquisitions(see last entry).

Added a new comment on the Contact Page to remind folks that emailing me to check my availability is as silly as emailing someone to ask what time it is. Once you get an answer the information is already outdated.

The big updates were to the Links and Reviews pages.

I’ve added a link to my long time friend, sirriamnis’s, newish advice website. You know I’m all about words of wisdom delivered with wit:

And a link to my new friend, Master D’s, professional site. I’ll be blogging about him and his unique, and much need, service in the next week. Meanwhile take a look:

I also added a link to a collection of graphic novels on Amazon that I want…cause I’m a greedy little bitch that apparently didn’t get spoiled enough at Xmas. The image that started this post is from the series.

There were a whole bunch of new reviews from grateful playmates that have been piling up since October. Finally got them all edited for discretion and posted.

But my favorite review of the New Year wasn’t from a playmate, but a party guest. A couple of sweet twenty-somethings, friends of friends, who had this to say of me the next day –

“That dominatrix lady was really nice”

I don’t know whether I should smack their asses or pinch their cheeks…but I think I may have to use that quote in all my advertising from now on.

Jan 082008

So the holidays are FINALLY over, thank Goddess. Had a lot of fun times with good folks, but jeez, it does inspire the crazy in people. Biggest demonstration of that in my world was the ridiculous number of people that contacted me on December 30 and 31st trying to book time with me for the last day AND night of the year.

Not only do I never do same day scheduling, do I seem like the type of woman who would be without plans for New Years? One of those things that could have been insulting but I think mostly reflected negatively on the people calling.

As it turns out I was hosting a very enjoyable smallish scale soiree at my place. Not too kinky although my group tends to be very physical with each-other. I think the term gropie applies. No full on BDSM although in the process of showing off some of my new toys I got a nice round of spontaneous spankings going on. The main inspiring item was a new favorite of the recent holiday additions to my arsenal.

Being self-employed means that I miss out on certain corporate traditions. Like mind-numbing soul-crushing monotony. But also fun stuff like secret santa gift exchanges. So I decided to make ebay my secret Santa this year. I might have known exactly what I was getting but it did arrive wrapped.

I’ve been wanting to post about my new toys because…they’re so pretty…and to give potential playmates a heads up. So I’d like to introduce you to the newest members of my kinky little family:

Couple of new leather paddles. The ping pong style is fun but the spatula shaped one is a bit ungainly. It could work well on bigger boys and girls though.

Couple of new wooden paddles. The fraternity style one is made of recovered wood from an old farm house or something. The other one, that looks a bit like a wooden pizza spatula, is actually an antique butter paddle from back when people had to make their own. Woohoo! BDSM with the Amish! This toy was what inspired all the spanking at New Years. It’s very light and perfect for a good two-handed bat like approach. Love it despite the county-kitsch heart at the hope of the handle.

Couple of rubber paddles. The one on the right is from Toys in Babeland and is wicked heavy. The other was a recent surprise gift from an obviously masochistic playmate and is perfectly light for extended play. Both are oh so stingy.

I did try and balance things out with some wimp…I mean, lighter sensation toys. That’s a rabbit fur mitt and the other is a massage toy. Hard to make the first vicious, unless someone is allergic to bunnies. But the Bonger(yep, that’s honestly what its called) could be intense depending on what you hit with it.

This last add was a very special gift from a long time playmate who I’ll call birthday boy(since we share the same date). He knew it was something that I was planning on getting for myself and insisted I let him get it for me. And although the house rule for toys is “you bring it – you break it in”, in this instance, I gave him a rain check. I’ve played with a Violet Wand before but only on the heavy end of the spectrum. I wanted to test out the lighter attachments on someone else first and then bring it into our play. I finally got a chance to break it in the other day and WHHHEEEEEE!! its so much fun. So if you like electric play give me a call. Not sure what this is? Check out this site: http://www.violetwand.org/

Despite all the yummy booty that December brought I’m glad that my life has, for the most part, settled back into normalcy. Still plenty busy though. I guess a lot of people made “be more kinky” their New Year’s resolution. So if you wanna help me break in my new toys I STRONGLY advise you to plan ahead.

Till then, may the New Year find you healthy, happy and horny.

Goddess bless.

*The opening image is of white roses, a lovely gift received yesterday from my sweet lion cub, and White Lightening, a wonderfully wicked cane that I picked up at Babeland earlier that day. I didn’t use the cane on my cub, but I did use one of the roses. His own fault for not removing the thorns.

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