Why Kinky Coaching?

 

Sex Positive Sex Education – Brushing up on the basics.

Not everyone had the privilege of medically accurate information about their sexuality when they were growing up. Even fewer of us received an education that covered all the bases and was free of bias, religious influence, all the institutionalized “isms” and phobias, and general judgement. There is no shame in admitting that there are things you don’t know about your own body and sexuality let alone the bodies and sexualities of other people. But it’s never too late to get an education. I love helping folks better understand their own amazing bodies and libidos as well as helping them understand how things work for the people they’d like to share their bodies with. 


To the next level – Taking an existing relationship into new sexual territory

Considering adding a little kink and/or power play into your partnership? You might feel comfortable talking about conventional sexual stuff with friends, but maybe you aren’t ready for your pals to know about some of your new predilections. There are numerous self-help books out there with general suggestions for how to get your kink on. Why settle for one-size-fits-all when you can receive tailored advice. Personalized guidance can save you a lot of unnecessary awkwardness, injury, and grief. In addition to my decades of personal and professional experience with BDSM, I can provide a safe, discreet space, free from judgment, to ask your questions, voice your concerns, and discuss your interests.


Opening up – Stepping outside of monogamy

Polyamory has been getting more and more attention from the media lately and may have left you wondering if its the right fit for you. Or perhaps you and your partner are entertaining the idea of a singular sexual experience like a threesome. But how to communicate your interest to others? And what about jealousy? What are the rules for these types of things? Where do you even find people for it? Again, while there are some great books on the topic, there is notable benefit to having an experienced guide to get you through the more challenging aspects of this type of expansion.


Expand your skill set – Add to your mental, and physical, toy bag.

Already have a bit of BDSM experience under your leather belt but looking to learn more? Get clear, un-selfconscious tutorials and toy suggestions focused on your interests, scaled to your level of experience. If you think you’d prefer a more hands-on educational experience, just hop on over to the Domination page for a list of options.


Safe sounding board – Empathetic, nonjudgmental and discreet listening.

For over 20 years I have provided a safe place for people to share parts of themselves that they didn’t feel comfortable sharing with anyone else in their lives. Again and again I have seen the catharsis and comfort that this can provide. To not just be heard, but to be understood. To be able to talk freely with someone who “gets it”, to know that you are not alone, that your identity, your interests, your fantasies, are shared by many and that there is nothing wrong with them or with you. 

I am committed to providing safe place to share, learn, and explore for all gender identities, all sexual orientations, monogamous and non-monogamous relationship structures as well as for past and present members of the sex industry.

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